Thursday, June 30, 2011

Qingdao:









On the train to Qingdao (Wednesday):



Finally- Photos from Day 2 (Tuesday):







Sorry, but it has been very difficult for us to update our blog while here. I am not sure if it is our slow internet connection or if Blogger is down, but it just hasn't been working.

On Wednesday, we took a 2 and a half our train ride to Qingdao, to the orphanage where Tong spent the first year of his life. We met the associate director and some of the caregivers, who gave us a tour of the orphanage. It is really nice and colorful, with many photos on the walls. They showed us a photo, as some of the children take Tae Kwan Do at the orphanage. Tong has been coming back to the orphanage for Tae Kwan Do class, so they showed us his picture in the collage. The associate director gave us some gifts: a plaque, some blue angel stuffed dolls as the angel is a symbol of this orphanage. They also gave some stuffed animals to each of our children, and then treated us to lunch at a local restaurant. It was honestly among the best meals I have EVER eaten. My favorite was the dumplings filled with egg, fresh chopped scallion and I am not sure what else- but it was GOOD!!! The bean curd was also quite tasty. Apparently, Dylan is a huge fan of Chinese food too! And yes, we did even get to each enjoy a glass of Tsingtao beer. :)

As for Tong, Wednesday was a day of grieving. He was ok when we were visiting the orphanage and having lunch, but he sobbed on the way to Qingdao, asking our guide how we can be his parents if we do not look like him and if we speak a foreign language. He also said that he was afraid that if we saw any of the other kids in Qingdao, we wouldn't love him anymore and Emily would want to play with those kids instead. :( Most of all, he misses his foster family. He cried and he cried hard. It was heartbreaking, but I am glad that he is able to express what he is feeling.

Yesterday (Thursday), we went to Daming Lake, a beautiful park with a lake here in Jinan. It was beautiful but HOT!!!!!! Missy said that it has been relatively cool (compared to the usual summer weather here), but it was easily 95-100 degrees. I think we are in for some serious heat in Guangzhou!
We enjoyed walking around the park and we took a boat ride across the lake. It was really nice.

After the park, we came back to the hotel and had a low key afternoon. By about 5 pm, everyone was hungry, so we decided to take a walk to find something to eat. We took a walk down a beautiful traditional Chinese street across from the hotel and checked out all of the food stands and open air shops. Eventually, we found a chicken fast food place called Dico's. We really want to try some more local food, but are nervous with Mike's allergies as we can't always tell what is in each dish. Anyway, Dico's was fine, except for that they apparently have a Dico's song sung by children that plays in an endless loop while you are dining- I think we heard it about 75 times in a row, LOL!

Anyway- on our way back to the hotel, Tong had a bit of a meltdown (more like a rage), which lasted the whole way back to the hotel, and then some. For all of you who know Dylan, Tong gives Dylan's lungs (and vocal chords) a run for his money. Of course, given the situation and all of the major changes in his life, this is to be expected. He is leaving his country, his language, and all of the people who he has known for 7 years. He is having a very difficult transition, going through the textbook stages of grief, but we are encouraged that in between these moments, he is a happy and fun little boy who loves to receive and give affection. We know that over time, when we are home and things are more structured and more predictable, it will get better.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

More KFC and hanging out in the hotel room playing with the DS:




More pictures from Day One:

These photos are of our trip to get Tong's photos and of our dinner at KFC. As you can see,he seemed tentative and serious at first. Once at KFC, his personality started to really shine. Uncle Dru, you will be especially proud of the photo where Tong is wearing his kids meal pig toys as earrings. Reminds me of you and the napkin rings at my parents' house. LOL! :)



Pictures from day one, including our first glimpse of Tong Tong in the lobby of our hotel. Click on the photos to make them bigger. :)






Second Day with Tong Tong


Today Zheng Tong officially and legally became our son, as his adoption was completed. We applied for his passport and also received his adoption decree. His passport will be ready sometime on Friday, and then we will be able to head to Guangzhou to meet his brother.

Overall, Tong is doing very well given all of the major changes in his life over the past couple of days. He did experience some heavier grieving and some meltdowns today, particularly during transitions in and out of our van, in and out of changes of clothes, and in and out of the busier (and more overwhelming) government offices. He has really taken to Mike, and likes to be carried around by him a lot. Sometimes he will try to imitate Dylan's crying to get Mike to pick him up. We are encouraging him to use the word “up” to ask to be held, as we want him to know that he doesn't have to pretend cry or whine to be picked up. He seems to respond well to this, but let's just say that Mike is getting his exercise. :)

Despite the grieving and how difficult this all must be for him (he asked our guide why we all speak a foreign language), he has been doing well and is smiling about 60-70 percent of the time.

Mike has an application on his phone (Talking Tom), where an animated cat listens to you and then repeats everything you say. Well, Tong thought this was the funniest thing EVER, and it really was a lifesaver during some of the more overwhelming periods of the day. When he seemed to be on overload, he even talked to us and to the guide and answered some of our questions through the cat.

After taking care of the legal adoption and passport stuff, we came back to the hotel and decided we wanted the rest of the day to be nice and low key. Mike walked to the Starbucks across the street and got some sandwiches, which we ate in our room. We blew up a beach ball and the kids played some catch. We then watched some Pleasant Goat and Big Wolf and then put on some Phineas and Ferb music and did silly dancing. When Tong saw my silly dancing, he laughed so hard he almost fell over. Tong has rhythm and is a good dancer! :) After dancing, he went over to our suitcase and proceeded to try on all of my (and Mike's) outfits and check himself out in the mirror. When he put on my clothes, he put his hands on his hips and tried to walk like me I suppose. :) When he put on Mike's clothes, he made eyeglasses fingers to by looping his fingers around his eyes to complete the look.

For dinner, we ordered room service (pizza) which was actually really, really good. It had olives with smoked ham or bacon and sausage. Tong LOVED this and kept saying Xie Xie (thank you) Mama and Baba. This boy likes food!

A little while later, we decided to walk around the hotel. We checked out the pool, and then came back upstairs to get swimsuits on. When we got back to the pool, we realized there was one issue. The pool did not have a shallow end. It was deep the whole way across. None of our kids can swim (except for Emily, but not well enough for a really deep pool). So the kids dangled their feet in and we splashed each other. Tong enjoyed kicking his feet in the water.

Then we came back and got ready for bed. Tong put on his DS to let it play a song. He then started doing a fun interpretive dance, balancing the beachball on his head, then on his hand while balancing on one foot, then on his back. He is really so cute and his smile can light up a room. At the end of his dance, we had him take a bow and then we cheered for him. :)




Here some things that we have gotten to know about Tong:

He loves food. And he loves to share food.

He loves sweet things- candy, ice cream, etc.

He loves the bathtub.

He loves to brush his teeth.

He is incredibly smart and tries to copy everything we say (and does a darned good job).

He is very outgoing and funny. When he first met Missy (our guide), he basically gave her a full interview (How long have you worked in this job? Where did you go to school? Did you ever get in trouble with your teacher?) He seemed to be satisfied with all of her answers. :)

He loves to sing and dance.

He loves to draw.

He loves cartoons, especially Pleasant Goat and Big Wolf.

He loves bubbles.

Well he is excited about something, he squeals and/or jumps up and down. If he doesn't like something as much, or if it is “just ok”, he will just say “ok” with a less than enthusiastic shrug.

Emily and Dylan are doing wonderfully with this trip. Emily has always been a great traveler, but we didn't know what to expect with Dylan, as it is a major break from his routine. Well, he likes China! And he loves the view from our room. He toddles over to the window and just stares at everything outside. He had lost one shoe at the airport, so he was without shoes for the first day. When we went to Walmart, we got him a new pair, not realizing they were squeaky shoes. Well, he LOVES them and dances and stomps around at hyperspeed to make the shoes squeak. It is really cute.

As for Emily, she has been and continues to be an amazing kid and an awesome big sister. She has been so loving and so patient with Tong, and so good with sharing her toys, etc. This is a big change for her too, and she has been so great with all of it. We keep telling her that we are so proud of her, and we truly are.

As for Abby, well......this has been a rough trip for her. She doesn't do well with routine changes and this is a major break from her routine. Unfortunately, she has had quite a few meltdowns since being here, and has thrown herself on the floor of every airport, every plane and every government office that we have entered. She does not do well when separated from Emily, as she is very attached to her sister, so we knew that we could not bring Emily to China and not Abby. She would be miserable. But the change in routine has made her miserable too, I'm afraid. :( Thank goodness for Missy! It really helps to have another set of hands, and Abby has taken to her.

Tomorrow we leave the hotel at 7 am to take a two and a half hour train to Qingdao to visit Tong's orphanage. We will drive around the city and see some places that have personal significance for him.

Monday, June 27, 2011

Meet Zheng Tong!

Yesterday was busy, but wonderful. I (Kate) couldn't sleep the whole night before, as I knew that we would soon be meeting Zheng Tong.  We ate breakfast at the hotel restaurant (which is wonderful, by the way), with its assortment of baked goods, noodles and other traditional Chinese dishes.  

After breakfast, we walked around to explore our street.  We went to a couple of different stores.  Jinan is a really nice looking and modern city, but a couple of blocks away from our hotel is a really charming traditional Chinese street, with all kinds of open air shops and restaurants.  We hope to explore it tomorrow.  

At 12:15, I met our guide (Missy) in our hotel lobby and walked with her to the local bank, as I did not have any RMB.  I knew that Zheng Tong would be arriving to our hotel at 1 pm, so my heart was pounding the entire time.  Every time I saw a little boy on the street, I looked to see if it was him.

We returned to the hotel at about ten to 1 and I ran upstairs to our room to get Mike and the kids and Zheng Tong's backpack (which I filled with a few Ultraman toys, snacks and a kids' digital camera for him).  When we all got to the lobby, he was there, with a caregiver and an official from Qingdao.  He looked absolutely adorable, in a Mickey Mouse baseball cap.  He was also in shock/overwhelmed.  Both of the women with him were so incredibly sweet with him.  Mike and I introduced ourselves to Tong in Mandarin.  The two women then gave Mike and I a life book/photo album full of photos of Zheng Tong and captions under each photo (in written Chinese).  A lot of love went into this book.

I then showed Tong his new Cars backpack and pulled out the digital camera.  He became so excited, and must have jumped up and down for a straight 5 minutes.  The women accompanying him told me that he loves cameras and taking pictures, and that he wants to be a photographer.  Wow, who would have thought that this gift would go over that well?  Tong then took pictures- of everything.  Our family, the women behind the bakery counter in the hotel lobby, the indoor plants, the couches, the desserts.  In the meantime, Mike and I signed some papers, granting us guardianship.  

Tong and Emily are two peas in a pod.  Within minutes, they were holding hands and laughing.  Emily was jumping up and down with a big grin on her face.  She has been looking forward to this for so long.

In general, Tong did fantastic with the initial meeting.  When he seemed to become a little overwhelmed, he would focus on his camera and taking pictures.  He enjoyed showing us all of his photos.

We then went to get his passport photos and photo for Tong's adoption decree.  Then our driver came to take us to Walmart.  Dylan lost one of his shoes on the plane, so he was without shoes, so we got him a new pair.  We also picked up plenty of drinks to keep in our hotel room.  Then we went to the boys section and tried to figure out Tong's size, so we could get him some new shirts and shorts.  At this point, Tong's memory card was full.  Since this camera was his safety object to retreat to through the transition and all of the changes, he became very overwhelmed and we knew it was a good time to leave the store and go to someplace less overstimulating.  

When we were driving, Tong noticed that there was a KFC near our hotel.  He became VERY excited and even moreso when we said that we would go there for dinner.  Again, another 5 minutes of jumping up and down. :)  We then dropped off our things at our hotel room and headed to KFC- just Tong, us and Missy.  During this meal, Tong relaxed quite a bit and he and Emily spent most of the meal giggling together and playing with the pig toys that came with their meals.  In fact, Emily and Tong held hands from a couple of minutes after our first meeting through the rest of the day.

After dinner, we took a little walk to a local park.  Tong became very excited when he saw kites in the air.  He LOVES kites and asked if we can make a kite.  He also got very excited when he found out that we live near a beach where people fly kites.  We promised to fly kites when we get home.

We sat over by a large fountain with a lotus statue in the middle and little lotuses throughout.  There was a little boy with a water gun that could shoot water almost across the entire fountain.  He was there with his grandma, who said that Tong could use the water gun.  Well, he loved that!!!!!!  He shot water at dragon flies that were hovering above the water of the fountain.  He also challenged  people across the fountain to a water duel. :)

While we were walking, Tong kept reaching for Mike's watch.  Our guide said "He wants Mike's watch."  We told him that it would be way too big for him and that we would get him a watch that is his size.  Later, we asked Tong if he likes Ultraman, which is incredibly popular here with children aged 5 and up.  His answer was, "Yes, I like Ultraman, but I like Dad's watch better!"  Hahaha.  He was very curious, asking 1.  Why our family is so big and 2. Why there are no pots and  pans in our hotel room. We explained to him that we love our big family and that the hotel is not our permanent residence.  :)  When he was singing a song, he also asked our guide why he is not famous on tv yet. :)  This boy is very outgoing and definitely has the personality to be a celebrity.

On our way back to the hotel, Tong tested us a little bit, as he insisted on walking very close to the edge of the road.  He sat down on the ground and refused to walk when we asked him to stay with us and hold our hands.  I think he expected us to get mad, but Mike picked him up, told him that we care about him and do not want him to get hurt.  He then grinned when Mike was holding him and was happy all the way back to the hotel.

We then went back to our hotel room, where we started the nighttime routine.  Tong took his first bath ever (he always took showers) and his was soooooo excited, shouting "Look at me, look at me!  I'm swimming, I'm swimming!" in Mandarin.  I didn't think he would ever get out of the tub, but he did when we told him he could take another bath tomorrow. :)  Since the toilets in China are different, he also became very fascinated with the toilet and flushed about 5 times to watch the water go down. :)

Missy then left and Emily and Tong played for a while, until it was time to go to bed.  Tong gave me a hug and a kiss and called me Mama.  It was a good day.  A very good day. :)

Will post pictures later.  Right now, it is time for breakfast!

Sunday, June 26, 2011

We are here!!!

After a long trip with about a zillion potty breaks and at least 5 emergency clothing changes (for the kids- not us), we are HERE!!! Are we tired? Yes! Are we excited? Infinite yes! Missy, our guide / translator has been awesome, helping us to get us to our hotel and to our room. Tomorrow, we get to meet the older of our two new sons, Zheng Tong, and (not surprisingly), we are unable to sleep right now from the anticipation. Stay tuned!

Friday, June 24, 2011

Here We Go Again (x 2!)

I know, I know. It has been a while. For those of you who lost hope that I would ever blog again, well..surprise! :)

Mike and I (and Emily, Abby and Dylan) are so incredibly excited to tell all of you that we are leaving tomorrow morning for China. It is finally almost time to meet our boys!!!

A little background story....

Last Spring, we were hanging out on our adoption agency's Yahoo group when we learned that they were holding a Hope's Journey camp in Guangdong Province. There was one little boy in particular at the camp who had a smile that melted both of our hearts. Well, to make a long story short, this wonderful little guy is our 5-year-old son, James Hu Jie!




A few months later we learned of another special little guy who the agency had nicknamed "Scotty" at a subsequent camp in Shandong Province. He loves to sing and has a huge personality. :) We are so happy to be traveling to bring home our 7-year-old son, William "Will" Zheng Tong!



Now- about our trip...We are ALL going! I have a feeling that Dylan and I will be making many laps up and down the aisles of the plane. Somehow I don't see an 18 month old staying in one spot for that long.

We are so excited that we are leaving for China in the morning. And this trip will be so special because 1. We will finally be able to meet our two sons and tell them how much we love them and 2. We will be able to visit both orphanages and possibly meet with our sons' foster families on this trip. I am looking forward to meeting and thanking all of those who have loved and taken care of our boys.

We will update the blog as soon as we can and let all of you know that we have arrived safely. Thank you so much for everyone who has been there for us through this wait (which hasn't been THAT long, but yet felt like an eternity!) :)